He is married, and you have fallen head over heels in love with him. You have given your heart to a person who is not available and what is more you are enjoying it most of the time. You did not expect this to happen, it goes against everything you have believed in but here you are in this situation and it is hurting. No one can tell you to not love him. You are caught up in this roller coaster of feelings and happiness that is tinged with sadness and desperate wishes. I can’t and won’t judge you and my heart will break for you having to go through this phase of your life, so I want to point out a few things that you will experience.
If you can, think long and hard about them and see if you really deserve this. Because my bet is; is that you are worth so much more than living half a life. When he met you, he could have lied to you and not disclosed that he was married. This is a big warning sign, if he can lie about that, what else will he lie about?
He has a wife and possibly children. They will always come first in his life. He will spend holidays and birthdays with them. Do you want to be left alone on Christmas and other important days, after work hours and on weekends while he is doing the family thing with his family?
He has told you that he is no longer in love with his wife, she does not make him happy, they no longer sleep together. My question here is then why has he not left her? He says he will leave his wife once the children have graduated. Are you willing to wait 5, 10, 15 years to be made no.1? You are putting your life on hold, waiting until the moment is right. Is that fair to you? You are pushing away other opportunities and solid commitments.
Slowly but surely these questions will start taking over your thoughts and as each day passes, the more confused you get.
You are sure it is true love and you say you will wait for him for however long it takes. But I am sorry to say that it is only feeding your insecurities— those little voices that are saying you don’t deserve complete love and attention. That is not true at all. You deserve to be loved 24/7 not just on convenient days. So, look in the mirror and say: “I am tired of being second best! “I am tired of living a lie!” and “I am worth a lot more”
I hope you are the one to walk away and yes there will be pain. You will cry and you will wish you never did it, but the sun will start shining on your life again and slowly you will get your sparkle back and soon you’ll find the partner that will be there for you all the time.
NOTE: Although I have portrayed the male as the married one it can and does happen the other way around too.
Blessings to you all and I wish you an abundance of love and happiness in your life
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